Ain,t Nothing' You Can Do

There "ain't nothin' you can do" about quite a few situations!

 Andit's true with people, too. There ain't nothin' you can do

about the Way they are, so it is fruitless to try to change them

 into something Else.

You are wise to learn to accept them without conditions,
Understand them the best you can and love them anyway.

 For they Probably won't change much and there just ain't nothin'

you can do About it.
 
Sam Keen Christine said, "We come to love, not by finding a perfect
Person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly." It's
All about acceptance.  ~Steve Goodier~

Understanding Why We Get Angry

One of the helpful steps in equipping children to control their anger is to recognize four causes of anger. After kids have settled down and you debrief with them about their anger, talk about whats causing it. You and your child may see patterns and then be able to head off the problem earlier next time.

Blocked Goals. This is the kind of thing that happens to you, as a parent, when you want to do a project in the playroom and find that Billy has left his Lego's all over the floor and you keep stepping on them. Or, Billy may want to play with his train set only to find that his sister is using it first. These are blocked goals

Violated Rights. Thats when you, as a parent, are in the bathroom and your daughter keeps knocking on the door. You believe you have the right to go to the bathroom in peace. Your daughter may get angry because her brother came into her room and took her favorite CD. Those are violated rights.

Unmet Expectations. You had expected that when you got home you would be able to rest but instead you find a big mess. Or Jackie thought she would be going to McDonald's but instead you chose to go to Pizza Hut. Those are unmet expectations.


Experiencing Unfairness. When someone takes a toy from a younger child, you may feel angry as a parent because you see unfairness. Or, Tom may feel angry with his teacher because she picked someone else for a privilege he thought he deserved. Those unfair situations can provoke anger.


Whatever the situation, after a child has settled down, talk about the cause. Discuss the value of sacrificing rights, readjusting goals or expectations, and handling unfairness in a godly way. By examining the causes of anger, you can help children gain greater perspective and develop longer lasting strategies for managing their emotions.

In Relationship

1.    Never feel guilty about not able to cook

 

But do worry about not leading a healthy life style.

 

2.    Never feel guilty about earning more than him.

 

But do worry about not having time for each other.

 

3.    Never feel guilty about not having children

 

But do worry about not making an informed decision.

 

4.    Never feel guilty about not converting to his religion.

 

But do worry about biasing the children.

 

5.    Never feel guilty about keeping your surname.

 

But do worry about not understanding the implications of being couple.

 

6.    Never feel guilty about walking out of your marriage or partnership.

 

But do worry about making snap judgments about your partner.

 

7.    Never feel guilty about saying no to sex

 

But do worry about allowing days to turn into months and month to turn into problem.

Fight With Wifes Begins

When I got home last night, my wife demanded that I take her someplace expensive... ..so, I took her to a gas station..... and that's how the fight started.

I tried to talk my wife into buying a case of Miller Light for $14.95. Instead, she bought a jar of cold cream for $7.95. I told her the beer would make her look better at night than the cold cream. And that's how the fight started.

After retiring, I went to the Social Security office to apply for Social Security. The woman behind the counter asked me for my driver's license to verify my age. I looked in my pockets and realized I had left my wallet at home. I told the woman that I was very sorry, but I would have to go home and come back later. The woman said, 'Unbutton your shirt'. So I opened my shirt revealing my curly silver hair. She said, 'That silver hair on your chest is proof enough for me' and she processed my Social Security application. When I got home, I excitedly told my wife about my experience at the Social Security office. She said, 'You should have dropped your pants. You might have gotten disability, too' And that's how the fight started.

My wife and I were sitting at a table at my high school reunion, and I kept staring at a drunken lady swigging her drink as she sat alone at a nearby table.

My wife asked, 'Do you know her?'

'Yes,' I sighed, 'She's my old girlfriend. I understand she took to drinking right after we split up those many years ago, and I hear she hasn't been sober since.' 'My God!' says my wife, 'Who would think a person could go on celebrating that long?' And that's how the fight started.


I rear-ended a car this morning. So, there we were alongside the road and slowly the other driver got out of his car. You know how sometimes you just get soooo stressed and little things just seem funny? Yeah, well I couldn't believe it.... he was a DWARF!!! He stormed over to my car, looked up at me, and shouted, 'I AM NOT HAPPY!!!' So, I looked down at him and said, 'Well, then which one are you?' And that's how the fight started.

I took my wife to a restaurant. The waiter, for some reason, took my order first.

'I'll have the strip steak, medium rare, please.'

He said, 'Aren't you worried about the mad cow?'

'Nah, she can order for herself.'

And that's how the fight started.